Other Peoples Drama....

After searching for a simple topic to talk about, it hit me: What have I thought of everyday this week?  Log on to FaceBook, at anytime of day, and see several friends exhibit text book Passive / Aggressive behaviors.

"I hate it when people don't do _________!!"
"You give of yourself, and people don't appreciate it!  You know who you are."
"Why do ex's have to be such ______?!"


My boss passed along some great words of advice in an email this morning, and I will pass them along here:

It dawned on me that if you just eliminated “other people’s drama” from your life, time management would no longer be an issue. Ever. You’d have 20 extra hours a week. Minimum. Maybe you could use that time to change your dorky voicemail, or build a website or blog, or something for YOU.

Other people’s drama is a complete and utter waste of your time, energy, and attitude. It does NOTHING to build your character, intelligence, knowledge, reputation, career, success, or wealth. Yikes!

Here are a few painful questions:

Do you spend more time on other people’s drama or your career?

Other people’s drama or your children?

Other people’s drama or building your personal brand?

Other people’s drama or your success?

Other people’s drama or your marriage? (ouch!)

If we would learn to eliminate the drama from our lives that does not need to be there, think of the time that is left for YOU!

I was disappointed at the last FaceBook Privacy Policy updates.  Not because they were bad, quite the contrary.  They helped many people protect themselves better.  I was upset, because I could no longer "stalk" those who left their pages open.  Although, "stalking" is such an ugly word, that is exactly what I was doing.  I was getting caught up, in other peoples drama.  By taking that time back, for me, I have found other, more productive, avenues to channel my time.

If I hadn't taken time for me, I would not have been ready for the great opportunity presented to me today.

More to come....

The Search for the Perfect Bed...

We have chosen the size. We have chosen the placement. We have chosen the maximum price point. We have even chosen the color of the sheets for Pete’s sake.

Why can’t we decide on a new bed?!

Name any furniture store in Idaho Falls and I have a business card from some poor sales sap. Spending a needless 30 minutes with us, as we literally lay down on every single bed in their showroom, only nets them a story of the couple who can’t make up their mind.

Too firm and can’t get comfortable. Too soft and you wake up achy. Too low to the ground and your knees will go out. Too high and the dogs will bark and wonder why you don’t love them anymore.

Why does this decision feel like the beginning of the end?

Time away as a one....

Any Couples Therapist will tell you, 'your marriage must come before anything.'  When you have children, finding time together, alone, becomes more difficult.

When you don't have kids, time alone usually isn't a problem. However....

When two, very independent people come together, closing the laptop or leaving the networking event early can become the hardest obstacles to overcome.  Prioritizing career, dogs, house, FarmVille CoOps and a marriage would seem to be the easiest thing to accomplish.  It seems very clear cut.

Today's couples face more stones on the path to a healthy relationship than ever before.

Sometimes getting away from everything is a must to recharge your battery.  Dropping the dogs off at the kennel and making a reservation at a terrific hotel, three hours away, is a must to celebrate a marriage. 

Even a great marriage can use a little attention.  Don't mind if we do.

Making time...

My desk looks absolutely horrific. I can’t believe I let it get this bad. I can’t move anything or it will fall off. I will clean and file but it never fails. It will return to this state within a few weeks.


This happens with everything. My bedroom closet, my bathroom countertop and especially my purse. They all suffer the same fate. Smoothed into every crease of existence a random receipt or ticket stub will end up. My favorite lip gloss lost in a pile for the next few weeks because the suit jacket I wore needs to be dry-cleaned and my dry-cleaning ends up in the corner.

Most organizers say to do a little bit every day. Devote 10 mins a day and tackle one thing at a time. I say, “Screw them!” I don’t have time to take the pile of books I have in the living room to the garage. --It’s been on the list for about 2 months.

So, in this season of “Change,” I am committing to me. 10 minutes a day I will deal with one problem area. In addition, I will devote 20 minutes to blogging.

I have had this page since September 2008, but have been hesitant to start. I knew that if I started, I would feel very guilty for stopping. So here it goes. Feel free to come along for the ride.